3 Tips To Make You A Better Lover Tonight

So many people feel that the key to good sex lies in looks, lingerie, and other superficial visual aspects. While it is true that men are typically more visual than women when it comes to arousal, making sure to involve all the senses can help lead to a more steamy time in bed than the perfect body on a model.

Here are 3 real secrets to great lovemaking.

1) Foreplay All Day

While true for both sexes, this is especially true for women. When they feel loved and appreciated, it helps to unleash their inner Goddess in the bedroom. Taking time to do something sweet for them, such as the stereotypical flowers or helping around the house will fill her with feelings of love that can be felt in the bedroom. For men, try to find something that works for your man. Wearing that skirt he loves even though you hate it, or rubbing sore muscles after a long day of work are a couple of examples. Be creative in finding ways to show your partner they are important to you and you'll be amazed how this non-sexual act can really steam up the bedroom.

2) The 5 Senses

Play around with stimulating forgotten senses, and maybe even removing others. Undress each other slowly in the dark, with a focus on touch and not sight. Whisper sweet things during lovemaking, pillow talk does not have to be kinky to be steamy. For the experimental, blindfolds or even hands tied up can be very erotic. Vanilla is said to be the most sexually arousing smell for men, but play with a variety of scents to find your hot spots. Use these scents during foreplay, such as in massage lotions or sexy scented sheets. The use of flavored oils, strawberries, and whopped cream is nothing new, but the stickiness can be a turn off for many. Instead, enjoy the taste of each other. The taste of a kiss or the saltiness of skin can be very sexy and enjoyable, perhaps consider showering together so that you can then taste your partner's clean skin and get to know their personal "flavor."

3) Eye Contact

Many people close their eyes during love making, either from shyness or from being lost in the physical pleasure of the moment. Making and keeping eye contact can keep partners in the moment, and a smoldering stare shows your partner that you are enjoying what is happening and them specifically. Eye contact is a way to see what your partner is feeling and can help you both to enjoy all the aspects of love making together.

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7 Tips Your Teen Needs to Know About Love Before It Is Too Late

Have you ever wondered why so many people experience love life heartache on a regular basis? Most people seem to start out with good intentions but then many fall into the typical love life traps.

After over 25 years of empirical research with metaphysics, personality and compatibility assessment, and as a matchmaker and writing a book about soul mates, we've created the following tips to help you and your teens and adult children avoid all the most common love life traps.

Warning: Some of these tips may be entirely opposed to your love life dreams. We don't sugarcoat our findings because not doing so will help you more in the long run.

1) Avoid the trap of "you are my everything." Put yourself, your self-love, self-respect, and self-esteem first. You don't need someone else to be happy.

A tendency to look outside one's self for love exists when self-love, self-respect, and self-esteem are low. Unfortunately, there will never be enough to fill the void inside.

Weak self-love, needing love and attention like an insatiable drug habit, or never being comfortable with even temporary solitude are signs of being ill-prepared for, and lacking a necessary inner foundation for a healthy relationship. It's obvious, but it overlooked by so many people.

2) Don't try to force the circumstances of your love life. A strong will can help some areas of your life, such as career and health, but it can backfire with your love life. Know what works for you and what you want, then go with the flow. Too many New Age and self-help authors claim that you can create whatever you want, when you want, in your love life if you follow their advice. Based on our findings, we believe that everyone does have free will, but only within the confines of your individual fate and karma. This means you can make the most of your life, but that one of life's realities is that you can't always have exactly what you want, when you want it.

3) Be cautious about safe-sex and birth control 100% of the time, even when you're in love. Love or lust doesn't protect you from unwanted pregnancies or STDs. Respect yourself and your future by practicing safe sex and using two forms of birth control every time, even if you think you know the person you're dating very well. If they're not okay with this, they're probably not right for you.

4) Realize that marriage or commitment will not guarantee happiness or improve a relationship. Many divorced people will admit that the high expectations of traditional marriage can do the opposite.

5) Consider if a traditional marriage or marriage-like relationship is best for you. One size does not fit all; the traditional model encourages conforming to rules and customs which may not be right for you.

6) Consider the importance of a prenup, even if you and, or your partner don't have many assets. Over half of all marriages end in divorce, with many couples fighting in court about money. You don't know just what you'll be worth 20 years from now or exactly how your partner will react if they feel their needs aren't being met.

7) Consider the idea of what we call a "child contract" in addition to or instead of a marriage contract. Unlike marriage, this puts the child first and financially protects the main caretaker before the child is born.

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The Disappearance of Mr Potential

So this is it. After all those dating nightmares you have experienced before, you finally met someone that actually has the potential to become more than a date. No matter whether you went out on a couple of dates with Mr. Potential or you had those extensive chatting sessions with him online, you have the feeling you at last found someone you click with. So during your last dinner or when he walked you home and gave you that good night kiss in front of your doorstep or during your last online chat, where everything went perfectly well and both of you can't wait to see/talk to each other again, You mutually agreed that you talk or see each other the next day and you go to bed with the biggest smile on your face.

The next day you are fully excited and can't wait that time is passing fast enough and stops right then when you are due to meet your new acquisition. And then the time comes closer, then the time is due and suddenly the time is overdue... And here is where this sneaky bastard, this queasy feeling starts to hit you, from the back with a bat.

You start telling yourself "Ok its only 1 hour, maybe he got stuck somewhere" but then 1 hour turn to 2 and then to 3 and then it turns into 24. Of course you don't want to rush into something and call or chase him because you don't want to cling to him as you have learned that men need their freedom, right? So you try to be patient and see what happens (this is not very easy if patience is not your best skill). And what do you see? NOTHING exactly nothing happens... this 24 hours turned already into 48 and you start wondering "WTF is going on?"

So this plan of being patient and strong is not really working out for you huh? So you give in, to a limit though, but you give in. You decide to sent him a message, an email or call him, anything to get in contact with him. Of course nothing noisy or annoying, just checking in on him, nothing else. OK done. So you know what happens next, right? Exactly NOTHING... And without any doubt you will be checking your mobile every 5 minutes, you will take it with you wherever you go just to be sure you don't miss his call, his message or his email, for the ones among us who actually own an Iphone or blackberry the email reconcile now button would by fully worn by now. And when you check your device, possibly the time span between the checking decreased to a minute or less, every time you just get more and more disappointed and this queasy feeling, this bastard with his bat is right behind you.

If you didn't start already earlier, this is the point where you go through every single minute of your last date. You try to remember things he said, you said and all the events and try to figure out whether there are any indicators that would explain his disappearance. Of course if you have an online-chat-thingy, you can just re-read the entire conservation, makes it easier at least for people with a bad memory or an early stage of Alzheimer. You wondering, whether the herbs of the dinner were stuck between your teeth, whether you had a bad breath during your kiss goodbye, whether you showed any "noisy woman behavior" that you were actually planning to repress till at least your 5th or 10th date. Yeah all of those might have happened and you had no clue. For those under you who do the online-dating-thingy you might have actually shared something that just turned him off, such like a boring story, a comic or a picture of your untoned, flabby belly. Yeah girl there you go... and you are seriously still wondering?

So you imagine but seriously you can't find anything that went wrong during your last contact with Mr. Potential, sure you weigh every word and interpret the worst into them, but if you are really honest to yourself there are no signs that he was planning to disappear, though he has seen that belly picture. And trusting your inner voice you know that you wouldn't have graded him to Mr. Potential if you had the faintest idea that he is a crook when it comes to women's hearts.

OK so nothing during your last "date" is probably the reason for his disappearance, so it must be something that happened after he left you. 72 hours past by now and you know that legally you could already report him missing with the police. Yeah, actually you could but you don't want to be the doofus at the police station reporting someone missing you have met, what... Three times? Especially not when the cops taking your report are smoking hot and making fun of you because you just don't want to admit to yourself that you suck and that he actually took his heels to get away from you. Nah you don't want to go through that, so you have to find an alternative without running after him and of course without him knowing that you care, just in case he really just dumped you.

Since you want to avoid the above contacting his family and friends is out of question, if you should know any of them anyway (common it were just a couple of dates). So what it is that made him disappear? And then it hits you, nah not the fellow with the bat, no a new sneaky bastard called fear.

Oh yeah babe, this little ugly friend has a lot of faces, be careful. So this tricky bastard gets into your mind so quickly and sweeps you off your feet that you don't even remember when he arrived. Fear stage one says that he probably found something out about you he didn't like and that made him furious and pushed him away from you. OK so you want to investigate this possibility and start stalking your own Facebook profile to check whether there is anything on there that could have been misunderstood, nothing fine. You move on to Twitter, Myspace, LinkedIn and start Googling yourself (wow you don't know that Google has all of that info on you huh?) yeah but still you can't find anything that would explain that he would stop talking to you. Right here fear phase two kicks in and girl believe me that's the worst. "Something must have happened to him" OMG now the scales fall from your eyes... HE IS DEAD. Yeah that's most probably the only realistic explanation for his disappearance... there is no other way he would not want to be with a smart, funny and beautiful lady like you (yeah even the belly you have can be sexy, ask the BBW fans). OK so he is dead, go figure... life, god, fate or whatever you believe in, is hating you, now since you might have found the perfect match, of course life cannot allow you to be with him, how come?

So at 96 hours and counting and after consulting your cold hearted friend and most probably your mother too, you finally hit the stage of despair. Your cold hearted friend, you must have one, everyone does, is looking at this whole scenario completely relaxed saying "nah... he is just busy, give him time, don't worry" and all this crab you don't want to hear. In contrary you mom is killing you with scenarios ranging from hospitals to death, which doesn't help either.

Yeah at this point right here is where you will linger for a while, it will take time to get him out your system girl and without knowing what actually happened this will take even longer. But rest assured that the day will come you will find out the truth, whether you will bump into him somewhere (and automatically know he was a crook and that you should really work on your senses) or whether you will be encountered by his ghost (which will not make you feel any better as you have lost the potential of having Mr. Potential). For those among you who have met Mr. Potential online and he lives, let's say 10000 miles away, most probably you wont find out the truth... so buck up and move on with your life! There should be more than one Mr. Potential out there, right?

Yeah, not very convincing huh? But at least try, it's the best you can do right now girl. Heads up!

How to Pick Up a Girl in a Bar Successfully

Going to the club or to a bar presents many ways for you to meet the opposite sex. You will find plenty of ladies who have different reasons why they are there. For college guys who are tight on their allowance, this is a good place for you to get girls for free. Well, this is actually the reason why I go to a bar or a club during those times in college when I want to meet someone and ultimately score.

But it's not every time that you are able to pick someone up before the night is over. Unfortunately, there are many guys who do not get that much luck at all. This is because picking a girl to ultimately score involves many factors. Each element must be put into consideration or most of them must be applied for a successful night. To increase your probabilities in scoring, tips on preparing and picking up a girl will be discussed here.

Hold on soldier, before you engage on the playing field, be sure to equip yourself first. Do not go bare-handed unless you want to get results. So here some stuff that you have to do first:

Prepare What You Need

a. Some Cash to Cover Expenses
Be sure to bring with you enough money for your pass and booze plus other charges that may occur during your escapade like a budget for a cab or gas for your car, motel accommodation if you do not have a place nearby, and for contingency purposes.

b. Rubber Coating for your Rod
Be sure to bring with you a rubber coating for your rod, do not ever go out without it. You will never know when it will come in handy. Luck comes unexpectedly any given time so never ever forget it. Besides, girls also want it that way. It's a safe way of making love.

c. Suit Up
Dress up accordingly. Okay, this is the part where you must take into consideration the kind of place where you are going to. Do not dress all hip with your large accessories or put up your boy band outfit if you are going somewhere that does not offer such theme. I suggest that you just put on your casual wear or semi-formal wear. That way, you will be neutral and your style will not just cater on some specific group's preference.

d. Invest on Yourself
You should invest in yourself especially the way you look or even smell. I am not saying that you should have a plastic surgery or anything like that. What I mean is get yourself a haircut, bathe yourself using scented oils like tree oil, apply a deodorant, put on a hair gel and some perfume.

e. Be Confident
Lastly, be confident or always believe in yourself. Being confident gives out a vibrant aura about you and it will definitely bring out the best in you. With it, you will be able to make the right moves and say the perfect lines. Basically, this part is the most important factor that you should have in order for you to proceed to the next part of this article, which is the actual pick up.

So you are now in the bar, you are all prepared but you don't know what to do. Let us now discuss the tips on how you start your epic night. Here are some tips on how to pick up a girl in a club without embarrassing yourself:

Tips on How to Pick Up a Girl

a. Sit Down or Hang Out in the Bar
Pick a strategic place in the bar where you can have a good view of most of its areas. This will enable you to acquire a prospective target and it will also allow the girl to easily spot you. Now this is the part where you get your radar working.

b. Assess the Situation
Once your radar picks up a girl, assess her first. Pay attention to how she moves or how she dresses. That would give you an idea if she is outgoing, shy, conservative or wild. A basic logic will do the trick or just let your instincts work on this one.

c. Keep the Eye Contact
Then while looking at her, she suddenly catches a glimpse of you. I don't know why this happens but it happens. People have the instinct of knowing when they are being watched. Well, let's stop wondering about that phenomenon and concentrate on the mission at hand. Okay, once she takes a look at you and she stares at you, keep your eye contact. When she smiles at you, gives a bottle's up or gives any positive gesture. That is a go. Approach her.

d. Talk the Talk
Start with a "Hi" or some cool phrase, and ask her name. If she asks yours too, that means she's interested. So fire away soldier. Remember to keep the conversation going smoothly. Do not monopolize the conversation though, most girls prefer a listener. Make your conversation two-way, like a question and answer between the two of you. You take turns in talking. Then try not to have a long pause in between your conversation, unless there is something physical going on. To get to the next level, try to get more personal and get your conversation to an intimate level.

e. Do the Touchy Stuff
Once, you reach the peak of your intimacy, start by getting a bit physical like sitting closely with her. Let your skin touch each other gradually. Let your arms touch each other until both of your shoulders get too close. Then follow it up by holding her hand or wrapping her with an arm. If you don't see any struggle or any negative reactions, that's a good sign.

f. Get Out of There
Keep the eye contact and the conversation going with some intimate physical contact. Then ask her if she wants to get out of there and check some other place or get to a place more quiet where you could talk and get to know more about each other, like your pad or some motel. If she agrees, your mission is accomplished!

There are many other techniques and factors involved aside from these basic ones. But we will get to an in-depth discussion about that later in our next articles. These methods may not work every time but it surely worked 75%-80% most of the time. Lastly, do not forget to put passion in everything that you do. Confidence, coupled with passion, will get you the reaction that you desire.

To successfully pick up a girl in a bar or in a club, remember the things that are needed for the preparation process. Then once you are at the bar, find a good place to sit down, establish eye contact, talk the talk, start touching and get out of there.

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Being in a Relationship With Someone Who Chooses You to Someone YOU Choose Makes a Big Difference

Although it might NOT be apparent, there is a big difference whether you go out with someone YOU have decided to go out with or with someone who has chosen you. The first usually happens when you are empowered to be yourself and feel safe with being alone. The second often occurs when you have a low self-esteem; are desperate to have a relationship and willing to go out with whoever shows interest in you.

Whether you choose your date or being chosen often makes a huge difference about the quality and "well-being" of the relationship which will develop. Choosing someone to develop a relationship with usually indicates your strength: You are selective; you judge and contemplate whether the two of you can click in terms of personality, age, profession, education and the like. You also count on your intuition and inner-voice: is this person someone with whom you can develop something meaningful?

On the other hand, if your tendency is to develop a relationship with whoever shows interest in you - and this has become a pattern of yours - it often indicates neediness, low self-esteem and fear of being alone. All these drive you to being willing to go out almost indiscriminately with whoever approaches you. You feel elated and flattered: someone wants you! And you begin already to fantasize how it'll be to have a new partner and what the future may hold for the two of you.

I've seen many singles that fit this description. If you are one of them you are likely to justify your "falling in love" by saying that "this person who asks me out is really wonderful"; or "I know we two have something special going on"; "it isn't for nothing that we've met", and so on and so forth, ignoring the fact that you've felt exactly the same about all previous partners you have had.

But the truth is: if you use such justifications - or similar ones - over and over again, always are willing to jump in with whoever asks you out, finding yourself unsatisfied in the relationship which evolves and eventually alone once again, it can mean only one thing: your eagerness, neediness and desperation to have a partner hurt and sabotage you.

In all likelihood you avoid thinking this way about yourself. You deny that this is what happens even if it has become a pattern with all your relationships. You prefer to justify the failure of the relationships by saying that "I had too much to give and my partner didn't know how to reciprocate"; or "My partner wasn't really available for a relationship"; and "It became clear that my partner didn't want to commit", and so on.

It is often easier to justify the failure of your relationships by stating such justifications rather than by honestly observing your relationships' patterns and acknowledge the fact that something in you, something in the way you let others choose you rather than your choosing them, sabotages your attempts at relationships.

As long as you will not be willing to be honest with yourself, get down to the root of what makes you jump into a relationship with whoever shows interest in you, it is likely that you will continue failing in your relationships over and over again.

The courage to look inwards and be honest with yourself is a key to resolving whatever issues stand in your way from developing a satisfying, healthy and successful intimacy.

Her Ten Biggest Pet Peeves

#1. They don't listen.

This has got to be the most annoying thing about boys not because they seem like they don't care, but because I have to repeat myself! However, the fact that you're spending time telling them something that they're not bothering to hear or remember is a MAJOR turnoff. Have some respect!

#2. Saying one thing, meaning another.

Plain and simple. Don't tell me you want to do something or you will do something and then not do it. I'd rather just do it myself. And on that note, why the hell can you not just make it clear that you don't want to do it?? Real women can hold their own, you have to earn your keep!

#3. Insecurities.

This goes back to confidence. If I'm with you, you're obviously not that bad. Being open about your feelings is one thing. Pointing out every little thing that's wrong with you on a countless basis is another. It's a mood killer! Are you trying to kill the mood? The only thing worse than being arrogant is being absolutely insecure.

#4. Arrogance.

Although arrogance can be hidden well, don't act like you're too good for the world. If you're so hot, then why don't you live on the sun? I want to know what you like, not what you're "good at".

#5. Stupidity.

Maybe it's just me, but i'm alright with the pretty and dumb thing. So what you're no good at math? At least you've got SOMETHING going for you. It's the stupid thing that really gets me. Ladies you'll know the difference... Stupid stories, stupid lies, stupid friends, you get where this is going.;)

#6. Personal space, please!

Everyone needs a little breathing room... Even you believe it or not! I'm not saying to go days without calling, we just want you to respect our personal space. Not to mention that things are more fun when I miss you a bit!;) Need I say more?

#7. One-word Text Messages

This one is pretty simple. It is almost scream-worthy annoying to get an answer like, "chicken", to the question, "What would you like for dinner tonight?". We sort of need to know... Do you mean that you would like to have; grilled chicken with vegetables, chicken Marsala, chicken Parmesan, yellow rice and chicken, chicken-fried-chicken, chicken n' dumplings, are you starting to get the hint? When we ask, "What time are we meeting tonight", and we don't know the other details, don't just say, "Seven.", Remember the whole, Who, What, When, Where, and Why thing? Yea, this is what they meant. You can be simple AND effective.

#8. Indecisiveness

There is nothing sexier than a man who knows what he wants. Know what you want, and go out and get it. And If it's me you want, "I don't know", just wont cut it when I ask you a question. Stay on your toes boys!

#9. Disrespect... To the general public.

This one goes without saying. Disrespect isn't cute. The simplest example is the guy who takes me out to an expensive dinner, and then shafts the waitstaff. Leaving a good tip is not only the right thing to do, it's also pretty sexy.

#10. Absence of attention

Don't ask me to hang out with you so that you can act like I'm not there. Why am I wasting my time? your best friend had his eye on me too, and honestly he's a little cuter!;)

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Talking To Women Is a Fundamental Skill That You Need to Have If You Are Single

There are certain fundamental skills that every single guy needs to have if he is going to be able to attract women and one of the most important ones that a guy should possess is the ability to talk to women. If you have a hard time making conversation with the ladies, then that is something that you should work on right away or else I'd have to say that you are always going to find the dating scene difficult to handle. Now, most guys do know that they need to be able to talk to women, what they really need help with is finding out how they can get decent at being able to do this.

I've had my fair share of awkward experiences where I was trying to make good conversation with a woman and it wound being anything but good conversation, so I know what it feels like when you are stumped for something clever to say. What I found that was impeding my ability to make good conversation was the pressure that I put on myself and I think that this is what ends up making it hard for most guys to make good conversation with women. When you look at what makes up a good conversation, one of the things that stands out is that it flows almost effortlessly. That is when it really feels fun to talk to someone and that is not going to happen when you are already putting a lot of pressure on yourself.

Since you do need to have the ability to talk to women if you are a single guy and you don't want to end up being some lonely guy who lives with a cat and hasn't dated in decades, what you are first going to have to do is to stop putting pressure on yourself before you even start the conversation. As long as you keep on putting that pressure on yourself, not only will it be very difficult for you to have a good conversation with a woman, it's also probably going to eventually lead to you feeling as though you would rather avoid that situation altogether.

Here is a little bit of advice on getting better at talking to women based on what has worked for me:

1) You don't need a pick up line, you just need an opener.

Most guys seem to think that they have to use a standard pick up line to start a conversation with a woman and you don't really need that at all. What you do need is an opener and that can be anything at all that you can think of to talk to a woman and get her to respond to you. "Hey" is a good opener, believe it or not. When you think that you have to possess the best pick up line in the world just to have any success at all with a woman, you are inevitably putting pressure on yourself and you don't need that.

2) You need to be able to make topical conversation.

You don't have to know everything that they talk about in gossip columns or anything like that, but you should be able to make some topical conversation. It may be "fluff" in a sense, but it is a good way to get started talking to someone you don't already know. You don't want to dig in with the deep stuff right away and the fluff can actually be good for laughs as well.

3) You should be able to make eye contact that feels natural.

It's hard for most guys to make eye contact with a woman when they know that they like her and they are trying to impress her. When they do, it usually comes across almost like they are staring at her and you want to avoid that as much as you can. Instead, you want any eye contact that you make with a woman to seem natural. Don't avoid it altogether, that's not good, just make sure that you don't come across like you are staring hard at her.