So this is it. After all those dating nightmares you have experienced before, you finally met someone that actually has the potential to become more than a date. No matter whether you went out on a couple of dates with Mr. Potential or you had those extensive chatting sessions with him online, you have the feeling you at last found someone you click with. So during your last dinner or when he walked you home and gave you that good night kiss in front of your doorstep or during your last online chat, where everything went perfectly well and both of you can't wait to see/talk to each other again, You mutually agreed that you talk or see each other the next day and you go to bed with the biggest smile on your face.
The next day you are fully excited and can't wait that time is passing fast enough and stops right then when you are due to meet your new acquisition. And then the time comes closer, then the time is due and suddenly the time is overdue... And here is where this sneaky bastard, this queasy feeling starts to hit you, from the back with a bat.
You start telling yourself "Ok its only 1 hour, maybe he got stuck somewhere" but then 1 hour turn to 2 and then to 3 and then it turns into 24. Of course you don't want to rush into something and call or chase him because you don't want to cling to him as you have learned that men need their freedom, right? So you try to be patient and see what happens (this is not very easy if patience is not your best skill). And what do you see? NOTHING exactly nothing happens... this 24 hours turned already into 48 and you start wondering "WTF is going on?"
So this plan of being patient and strong is not really working out for you huh? So you give in, to a limit though, but you give in. You decide to sent him a message, an email or call him, anything to get in contact with him. Of course nothing noisy or annoying, just checking in on him, nothing else. OK done. So you know what happens next, right? Exactly NOTHING... And without any doubt you will be checking your mobile every 5 minutes, you will take it with you wherever you go just to be sure you don't miss his call, his message or his email, for the ones among us who actually own an Iphone or blackberry the email reconcile now button would by fully worn by now. And when you check your device, possibly the time span between the checking decreased to a minute or less, every time you just get more and more disappointed and this queasy feeling, this bastard with his bat is right behind you.
If you didn't start already earlier, this is the point where you go through every single minute of your last date. You try to remember things he said, you said and all the events and try to figure out whether there are any indicators that would explain his disappearance. Of course if you have an online-chat-thingy, you can just re-read the entire conservation, makes it easier at least for people with a bad memory or an early stage of Alzheimer. You wondering, whether the herbs of the dinner were stuck between your teeth, whether you had a bad breath during your kiss goodbye, whether you showed any "noisy woman behavior" that you were actually planning to repress till at least your 5th or 10th date. Yeah all of those might have happened and you had no clue. For those under you who do the online-dating-thingy you might have actually shared something that just turned him off, such like a boring story, a comic or a picture of your untoned, flabby belly. Yeah girl there you go... and you are seriously still wondering?
So you imagine but seriously you can't find anything that went wrong during your last contact with Mr. Potential, sure you weigh every word and interpret the worst into them, but if you are really honest to yourself there are no signs that he was planning to disappear, though he has seen that belly picture. And trusting your inner voice you know that you wouldn't have graded him to Mr. Potential if you had the faintest idea that he is a crook when it comes to women's hearts.
OK so nothing during your last "date" is probably the reason for his disappearance, so it must be something that happened after he left you. 72 hours past by now and you know that legally you could already report him missing with the police. Yeah, actually you could but you don't want to be the doofus at the police station reporting someone missing you have met, what... Three times? Especially not when the cops taking your report are smoking hot and making fun of you because you just don't want to admit to yourself that you suck and that he actually took his heels to get away from you. Nah you don't want to go through that, so you have to find an alternative without running after him and of course without him knowing that you care, just in case he really just dumped you.
Since you want to avoid the above contacting his family and friends is out of question, if you should know any of them anyway (common it were just a couple of dates). So what it is that made him disappear? And then it hits you, nah not the fellow with the bat, no a new sneaky bastard called fear.
Oh yeah babe, this little ugly friend has a lot of faces, be careful. So this tricky bastard gets into your mind so quickly and sweeps you off your feet that you don't even remember when he arrived. Fear stage one says that he probably found something out about you he didn't like and that made him furious and pushed him away from you. OK so you want to investigate this possibility and start stalking your own Facebook profile to check whether there is anything on there that could have been misunderstood, nothing fine. You move on to Twitter, Myspace, LinkedIn and start Googling yourself (wow you don't know that Google has all of that info on you huh?) yeah but still you can't find anything that would explain that he would stop talking to you. Right here fear phase two kicks in and girl believe me that's the worst. "Something must have happened to him" OMG now the scales fall from your eyes... HE IS DEAD. Yeah that's most probably the only realistic explanation for his disappearance... there is no other way he would not want to be with a smart, funny and beautiful lady like you (yeah even the belly you have can be sexy, ask the BBW fans). OK so he is dead, go figure... life, god, fate or whatever you believe in, is hating you, now since you might have found the perfect match, of course life cannot allow you to be with him, how come?
So at 96 hours and counting and after consulting your cold hearted friend and most probably your mother too, you finally hit the stage of despair. Your cold hearted friend, you must have one, everyone does, is looking at this whole scenario completely relaxed saying "nah... he is just busy, give him time, don't worry" and all this crab you don't want to hear. In contrary you mom is killing you with scenarios ranging from hospitals to death, which doesn't help either.
Yeah at this point right here is where you will linger for a while, it will take time to get him out your system girl and without knowing what actually happened this will take even longer. But rest assured that the day will come you will find out the truth, whether you will bump into him somewhere (and automatically know he was a crook and that you should really work on your senses) or whether you will be encountered by his ghost (which will not make you feel any better as you have lost the potential of having Mr. Potential). For those among you who have met Mr. Potential online and he lives, let's say 10000 miles away, most probably you wont find out the truth... so buck up and move on with your life! There should be more than one Mr. Potential out there, right?
Yeah, not very convincing huh? But at least try, it's the best you can do right now girl. Heads up!
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